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Post by natasha242 on Wed Jul 21, 2010 2:37 pm

want to give up on love??...it just sucks :/
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Wed Jul 21, 2010 2:58 pm

Personally, I don't really believe in finding the right guy/girl when a young teenager; at least before seventeen. I mean, nobody is mature enough at that age to really be the kind of person they'll be in the future at that age. It's better to wait to go into that whole dating scene until you're a bit older.

Long story short, guys are going to more likely than not completely suck at the age you're at when it comes to treating a girl the right way, Tasha, so don't give up just yet. (:

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Post by Guest on Wed Jul 21, 2010 3:57 pm

Don't. It sucks even more if you do.

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Post by Tifa326x on Wed Jul 21, 2010 4:44 pm

I agree with Thalia. You should best wait for love when your older, because half of the teens these days are just too immature and care about one thing when it comes to relationships. But you don't need to give up on it at all, because its better to be loved than never to be loved at all.
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Post by KassieL101 on Wed Jul 21, 2010 10:05 pm

you shouldnt give up on it....i did for the longest time but it didnt make my life much easier, it got worse every day. till i finally decided to try again, and everything turned out right Smile sure it may suck at times but thats the way it is, and there will alawys be more good times than bad, so dont give up ^_^
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Post by Eternal Snow on Wed Jul 21, 2010 10:49 pm

EDIT: Sorry, this is like, majorly long. Haha. Me ranting. It's fun stuff. Razz

Relationships when you're younger do suck majorly. Because everyone thinks sex is the ultimate way to show how you supposedly care and if you don't do it you don't care about your bf/gf at all, and at least nine out of ten teenagers don't know what they're doing on so many different levels it's just not even funny anymore.

I swear, my one friend was getting pressured by his girlfriend to have sex because her friend did and it was "her time now," and I asked him if he even knew how to put a condom on properly and he didn't so I told him to find out how before he does anything and this girl comes out of nowhere and starts attacking me for telling him thing going on about how "love is love" and that it doesn't matter because love will guide the way. And I just stood there like, ". . .seriously?"

Just a ton of teenagers are so not ready for it. And it makes laugh on some level actually, but my point is, that teenagers (as hard as we may try) are really not ready to have sex in most cases and are still growing and developing themselves in a multitude of ways, so relationships ages 14 through 17 pretty much suck because let's face it, that's what most high school relationships are about. And the few that aren't about that, get rumored like they are anyways.

There's no way around it, and that's not to say that once you get beyond 17 it gets easier, but then you're not going through so many changes and have all of these peer pressures that in some ways it does really make it easier. But relationships are a struggle no matter what age you're at.

The key is maturing enough to the point where you can problem solve and finding someone else who you really like who will do it with you. If that makes sense. Because no two people are exactly alike.

Like this guy I really like right now, he's pretty much demented in the head like I am, and that's just awesome and we both love it because on a totally psychotic level we can tell what each one is thinking, but interest wise, we totally don't match. I mean, I love candy, and we both love the same types of candy, have the same favorite flavor, and are major Alice in Wonderland addicts, but other than that, the list is very small.

But we're OK with that because we really enjoy talking to each other. Not that I can give you anymore than that 'cause we're still in the totally-infatuated with each other stage so nothing bad has really happened and there's been no issues thus far, but it's cool.

And so, I wouldn't give up on trying to find love, because you can really easily, but every guy/girl you're going to be with isn't necessarily going to be "the one." You have to go through a lot to find someone you really connect with, but in the end it really is worth it to some extent.

There is one reason why everyone is so obsessed with love, and that's because being in love is one of the best feelings you will ever have, and sometimes it ends really badly and there's nothing you can do to stop it, but sometimes you really do find someone.

And once you do, you have to admit, there's no better feeling.
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Post by DannyDomoSan on Thu Jul 22, 2010 12:57 am

Everybody's Definiton Of Love Is Pretty Much Different.

But As Other People are saying, I think love as Teens all suck.
Even if you find your "soul mate" don't think it.

You got your whole life ahead of you. just wait. Smile
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Post by Marc_Firewing on Thu Jul 22, 2010 2:07 am

Take it from someone who's suffocating in a relationship right now.

Be very careful with it. It can be a real pain in the ***.

If you're a person who wants their space you should really avoid it, because love can get supremely clingy. Patience is always great too, because it's best to flow with love when you're older and have a much better understanding of what it is.
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Post by xxFantasyLove on Thu Jul 22, 2010 7:21 pm

Honestly, I'm one person that sorta wants space but wants a relationship as well. I was sorta like you Tasha, I always thought love sucked. My BFF had a BF and like I got annoyed with them always kissing, and when my other friend Amber wasn't there I was the third wheel. We would go to the bridge near my school and hangout. Usually Amber and I, would talk while my BFF and her BF kissed. But since she wasn't their being the third wheel sucks so I would always leave.

I agree with Marc, being in a relationship means people will cling. I certainly don't like when BFs are all in my face about who I hang out with.

I'm not gonna give anyone a story (Click if you wanna read)
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but I recently had a BF who was older then me but was insanely jealous of my guy friends. I don't wh**e around, I'm not like that. But when ever I would hang out with a guy friend who I was really close to and we would always talk, he'd get in the middle of the conversation. Like it didn't matter if it was private or not. And it got me insanely pissed, I told my girl friends and they noticed it as well. I don't swing in the bi way but he'd always be in my conversations if I was hanging out with a girl. I give him attention when are together but it seems like he wanted more attention.

I told him I need space that I just wanna be alone for awhile, let me hangout with the girls. He said okay cool, but he totally didn't do that. Then like out of no where he would tell me "I'm giving you so much space, it's like you don't wanna be with me." At the time I did, and I told him but he just kept getting clinger and clinger, and it bothered me, I'm independent and always have been so to be with someone and give them constant attention is kind of hard for me.

Blah blah blah. But back to the point, LOVE doesn't totally suck! It just a matter of finding the person you have a lot in common with, it's about finding someone who likes you for who you are and doesn't want to change you. Honestly having a relationship were your pressured into doing "STUFF" then it's not a relationship!!! It's just basically being "Friends with Benefits" They'll come to you and say the stuff they want and get you to do.

But like I was saying and everyone else is, as a teenager most people are either testing out being in a relationship or just trying to find the right person. Honestly I'm gonna agree with Danny and almost everyone else, your not gonna find the "RIGHT ONE" when your young. You have people say "OMG he's the one." when they are in week 1, but maybe a few weeks later you see them arguing and stuff. It's all about you and how you feel, either way your gonna find yourself saying "Love is awesome" and "Love stinks and sucks."

(I totally had a good thing to say but I forgot.)

I know all that probably makes no sense at all. Sorry! D:
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Post by ShadowDragon1902 on Fri Jul 23, 2010 7:43 am

I can't stand relationships, to be honest. I had a super crush on my bestfriend since fourth grade, he asked me out in eighth grade, we dated for a year and half, and I got my heart ripped out. DON'T. DATE. YOUR. BEST. FRIENDS. I had several bad breakups before I dated him. Was cheated on, lied to, yada yada. Honestly, I'm surprised him and I are still so close and bestfriends. After the break up, it was HELL. Awkwardness, fighting, the whole thing. Although, I'm still in love with him. Even though he drives me up the WALL!!! Some of the things he does really makes me want to smash my head into a wall. He's so immature sometimes.. xD

But giving up is a bad thing, in a way. I gave up, and now I'm a crazy bitter b**** and refuse to date anyone. At least for now. I'm still not fully healed from my last break up. And boys just annoy me anway. Sammii would know. I complain to her about my stalkers 24/7 <3.

Although, I have a question myself. I mentioned earlier that I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend/bestfriend. But I'm starting to like another one of my close friends. I'm not at the EXTREME "I LIKE YOU" stage yet. I just think he's sweet and stuff. Its a small crush. Is that aloud? Liking two people at once?
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Post by Eternal Snow on Fri Jul 23, 2010 3:17 pm

Seeing as I know said best friend and know he's totally in love with another girl right now, yeah. I mean, if your friend still had feelings for you, then it'd be another story, but you really need to move on Nicole 'cause he may Be your best friend but I know for a fact that he so will probably never want you that way again. . .

not that I'm trying to rub it in or anything, but still, so if you like this other guy then go for it. You can't pine for the rest of your life, it's unhealthy. Who knows, maybe if you're with a different guy you'll get over it.

But once you two start to get close, I'd tell him something like, "I really like you, but a long time ago I went through a bad breakup and I still have feelings for the other guy, and it's not that I don't want to give you a chance because I do, but I think we should take it slow so I can get over these feelings and then fully commit to you."

Or something, because if you're in love with another dude than the one you're dating then, yeah, you're a bitch. Haha. It's kind of why I broke off all forms of communication with JJ.

Because I wouldn't feel comfortable dating Josh until I knew that JJ couldn't come barging in like, "I LOVE YOU! COME BAAAAACK." It may be the other way around, but generally, being in love with and ex, or having an ex still obsessed with you, can hurt the relationship.

And it's better to be honest. I mean, I don't care about JJ anymore, but I care about Josh and I wouldn't want my past relationships to hurt him.
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Fri Jul 23, 2010 4:11 pm

I don't understand the whole appeal of sex in general. >> Maybe it's my religion, maybe it's me, I don't know. I just know that that does NOT seem like it'd be a way to show someone you care about them. It's a total violation of someone's body and in all honestly, it weirds me out. It's unhealthy to be in those kinds of relationships before marriage, because honestly, you're ASKING for heartbreak.

I've never been in a relationship, so I don't know much about having your heart ripped out. My advice to anyone is what I said before, which is to wait for people to mature before dating them. Otherwise, they'll just want to be high and mighty and say that they're all cool because they've hurt somebody by pretending to care about them. It's unfair to you to be in that sort of relationship, so don't put yourself there.

It sounds like I'm saying to give up, but I'm not. I'm saying to wait until it's the right time.

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Post by ShadowDragon1902 on Fri Jul 23, 2010 5:02 pm

I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU THOUGHT IT WAS KEVIN, SAM. HECK NO. Kevin's like my bro, man. That' disgustinggg.

Yes, I know, I really should get over him. Trying. Yet this other person happens to me, like, in another state? D:
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Post by Eternal Snow on Fri Jul 23, 2010 5:16 pm

NOW THAT I KNOW WHO IT IS TYVM NICOLE; he's done it before. And online dating sucks like a BFKJSHDKJSHKJH, but at the very worst, you try it, you don't like it, you move on.

Maybe you WILL like it and things will work out for the better, I dunno, but you've theoretically got nothing to lose.
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Post by xxFantasyLove on Fri Jul 23, 2010 9:50 pm

Call me a slowpoke but people date online? o.o' wow, I'm really slow. D: Sorry I totally didn't know about it.
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Fri Jul 23, 2010 9:51 pm

Ah yeah, people are always meeting people online and start to "date" them. In my opinion, it doesn't really count, because virtual dates aren't... real. XD

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Post by Marc_Firewing on Sat Jul 24, 2010 10:27 am

>_> Me and my, now ex-, girlfriend dated online and met several times in real life.

That counted. >]
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Sat Jul 24, 2010 3:09 pm

Well, if you meeeeeeet, then it counts. X)

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Post by DannyDomoSan on Sat Jul 24, 2010 9:14 pm

If you meet online, then met in life. then in counts.
but then i think it would depend how often you are talking online or real life. right? If you meet once. then just continue to "date" online. i think it wouldn't count. If you met online but then continue your relationship in real life then it counts.

But. Love is Love. Very Happy
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Sat Jul 24, 2010 9:56 pm

Unless you're loving a forty-two year old pedophile. >>

What? It happens. XD

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Post by natasha242 on Sun Jul 25, 2010 3:00 pm

ahaha sory i haven't really been home to reply but omg i didnt think it would get this many responses o-o" ahhh butttt thanks guys, i was mainly just having a really badd dayyy but its all good now, and yeah the whole sex thing is really damn stupid its lke wtf..like sometimes ill be asked are you a virgin? by guys i barely know and im like wtf why do you want to know, im not gonna let you deverginize mee xD
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Post by ThaliaAnderson on Sun Jul 25, 2010 5:29 pm

Devirginze. XD
Oh, that's great. XD

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Post by DannyDomoSan on Sun Jul 25, 2010 5:39 pm

You Had to pick all the words in the dictionary. xDD
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Post by natasha242 on Mon Jul 26, 2010 10:29 pm

LMAO well im just sayinggg xDD
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